Death is Stupid (Ordinary Terrible Things Series)

by Anastasia Higginbotham

Death Is Stupid is an invaluable tool for discussing death, but also the possibilities for celebrating life and love.

She's in a better place now," adults say again and again. But mortality doesn't seem better, it seems stupid. This forthright exploration of grief and mourning recognizes the anger, confusion, and fear that we feel about death. Necessary, beautiful, and ultimately reassuring.

Death is Stupid tackles a child’s confusion and questions as he views his grandmother in her casket and attempts to reckon his own grief with the words of those trying to comfort him. Direct and cathartic, Death Is Stupid is unlike any other children’s book about loss.

“Wow, and thank God for this book,” Anne Lamott raved. “Having it fifty-plus years ago would have been a kind of salvation for me and would have helped me grow into a healthier and infinitely less frightened person.” The New York Public Library chose it as one of its best books for 2017. In a starred review, Publishers Weekly praised its “exact mix of true-to-life humor and unflinching honesty,” and noted that “many of the plainspoken sentiments she includes, as well as several ideas for how to remember and honor those who have departed, may be eye-opening for readers facing grief themselves.”

The Ordinary Terrible Things Series shows children who navigate trouble with their senses on alert and their souls intact. In these stories of common childhood crises, help may come from family, counselors, teachers, or dreams-but crucially, it's the children themselves who find their way to cope and grow